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Not trying is the only 100%

One person ran the arithmetic: trying might have small odds, but the only move that fails every single time is the one you don’t make.

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Someone once asked what keeps people trying when the odds are bad, and one answer did the whole job with arithmetic. Trying might carry a small chance of working — small, but never zero. Not trying carries a one hundred percent chance of failure. Every single time, no exceptions, guaranteed.

The asymmetry, spelled out

The move this answer makes is quietly radical: it refuses to compare trying against safety, because that comparison doesn’t exist. Both roads end somewhere. One ends at a small chance of yes plus a large chance of a survivable no; the other ends at a certain no that you issued yourself, in advance, for free. Once you see not-trying as a bet with a fixed losing outcome — rather than a neutral non-event — the fear of bad odds loses most of its authority. Bad odds beat no odds in every universe.

What other people added

Around that answer, others filled in the softer sides of the same truth. One person said low odds were the appeal — the harder the door, the more it means when it opens. Another reframed the attempt itself as the prize: try it to find out what you learn and who you become on the way, because without new attempts there’s no growth to be had at all. And a third put words on the alternative: never trying doesn’t make the question go away — you carry the wondering instead.

Using the arithmetic

This arithmetic is a tool for a specific moment: the pause before an application, a message, a first attempt, when the inner forecast says probably not. Let the forecast stand — it might be right. Then ask the only question the math cares about: is probably-not worse than certainly-not? It never is. Send the thing.

Common questions

Isn’t this the “you miss 100% of the shots” quote?

That famous hockey line got quoted alongside this one too — the internet reaches for it constantly. The version that stuck with us came from a regular person and adds the half that matters: trying’s odds are never zero. That asymmetry is the whole engine.

What if I try and it goes badly?

Then you know, and knowing compounds — people who try and miss keep reporting that the failed attempt taught them the next one. The what-if from never trying teaches nothing and never expires.

Part of a trail

A short guided path — one step hands you the next.

Often carried together

Things people often carry alongside this one.

A natural next step

a quiet placeSit for a minuteA meadow, a river, and nothing you have to do. The field is always open — and the wind on this page already knows the way.

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