Interpersonal
None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.
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Strive to be an exceptional listener.
People will love you for it.
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Work out the validity of criticism based on its own merits, regardless of who gives it.
Valuable insights can come from unexpected sources or those with opposing viewpoints.
- Do not accept criticism as fact; decide for yourself if it is well-founded.
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Cultivate an interesting life with hobbies so you have substantive things to talk about.
Without it, you may come across as boring with nothing to say.
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Give space and do not persist if the other person seems uninterested, gives one-line answers, or does not further the conversation.
Persisting might make them find you creepy.
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Read or listen to 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle to start reprogramming your mind.
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Inquire about people' passions, interests, hobbies, and viewpoints.
Most people enjoy discussing themselves.
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Show real curiosity about the individual you are speaking with.
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- Build charisma by being genuinely real, present, and caring toward the people you interact with.3
Put away your phone when waiting in public spaces to appear more available for interaction.
People are more likely to approach someone who is looking around rather than staring at their phone.
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Pay attention to criticism that makes a good point, but discard unfair criticism and do not take it personally.
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When someone makes an awkward comment, laugh about it gently and playfully for a minute, then let the conversation move on, treating the remark as silly and meaningless.
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