Ways of thinking

None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.

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  1. Pretend to be an adult, recognizing that most adults are also pretending and do not know what they are doing.

    Feeling 'grown up' is made up; everyone is faking it till they make it.

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  2. Look for new challenges and try to step outside your comfort zone.

    This adds to experiences and growth.

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  3. Adopt the mindset that the only true failure is not trying at all.

    Trying provides a learning opportunity or improvement, which is by definition better than no effort.

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  4. Change your mindset from 'I can't do it' to 'I can't do it yet.'

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  5. Conquer fear through gradual exposure by doing the scary thing slowly.

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  1. Do your hobbies for yourself, not to impress others or chase social approval.

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  2. Focus on how you respond to inevitable failure and get back up, rather than trying to avoid it.

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  3. Accept that you cannot be perfect and that everyone has limitations; trying your best is enough.

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  4. Break large, complicated issues down into small parts and handle them individually.

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